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Safety for Stalking Victims: How to Save Your Privacy, Your Sanity, and Your Life

FOREWORD, by Linden Gross

PREFACE

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

INTRODUCTION

1 STALKING, FEAR, AND DANGER

    What is stalking?
    Who are stalking victims?
    Necessary and unnecessary fear
    Who stalks?
    Types of stalkers
    "Why me?"
    "It's not fair!"
    "So, how much danger am I in?"
    Relaxed awareness

2 THE FIRST, MOST ESSENTIAL THINGS TO DO

    Take responsibility for your own safety
    "He's trying to drive me crazy, and I'm not going to give him the satisfaction!"
    "I'm not going to give in to my fear!"
    How to prevent stalking from starting
    As soon as you think you might have a problem
    As soon as you know you have a problem
    Take control

3 YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION - A STALKER'S TREASURE

    Who has personal information about you?
    A stalker's favorite toy - your phone number
    The key to your identity - your social security number
    Other personal information - safeguard it like gold

INTERLUDE 1: WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

4 HOME - YOUR REFUGE OR YOUR STALKER'S PLAYGROUND?

    If you rent
    If you live in a house or condo
    Make your home "unfriendly" to intruders and watchers
    Coming and going from home

5 THE ONE PLACE YOU HAVE TO BE - AT WORK

    Change your work environment, not your job
    Things to do every day

INTERLUDE 2: WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

6 GOING FOR A RIDEYOUR CAR

    In and around your vehicle
    Driving safely

7 PUBLIC PLACES - IS THERE SAFETY IN NUMBERS?

    Be prepared
    On foot
    Public transportation
    Bicycles

8 CYBER SAFETY - IS IT POSSIBLE?

    Your computer
    Using the Internet

INTERLUDE 3: WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

9 USING THE TELEPHONE - YOU THOUGHT YOU KNEW HOW

    Don't let him hear your voice
    Phones and phone companies
    Making and receiving calls

10 WHAT NOBODY ELSE WILL TELL YOU ABOUT SELF-DEFENSE

    "Empty-Handed" fighting
    Noisemakers
    Pepper spray and other chemicals
    Persuader / Kubotan
    Knives
    Stun guns
    Firearms
    Defensive driving
    Improvised weapons
    Diversify your safety portfolio

INTERLUDE 4: WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

11 INTERACTING WITH "THE SYSTEM"

    Police
    Witnesses
    Lawyers
    Prosecutors
    Newspapers, TV, radio, politicians

12 QUESTIONS STALKING VICTIMS ASK

    "What else can I do?"
    "Should I hire a bodyguard?"
    "Should I get a restraining order?"
    "Should I move? Change jobs?"
    "How does the stalker find me?"
    "I have kids. Is there anything special I should do?"
    "I may be a target for a celebrity stalker. What can I do?"
    "What can the police and others do to help me?"
    "I'm on a tight budget. How can I afford safety?"

INTERLUDE 5: WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

13 MISTAKES TO AVOID

    Mistakes stalking victims make
    Mistakes police and the legal system make
    Mistakes friends and family make

14 DEALING WITH THE STRESS

AFTERWORD

APPENDIX A: ORGANIZATIONS AND WEB SITES

APPENDIX B: SAMPLE STALKING LOG

BIBLIOGRAPHY

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Safety for Stalking Victims, by Lyn Bates, ISBN 978-0595181605, can be ordered in any of the following ways:

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